How to Stop Small Purchases From Draining Your Money You are on a budget. Maybe a tight one. Then one evening you are browsing online and you find a small thing. You do not really need it, you can afford it easily, and so you buy it. Nothing dramatic happens. Your bank balance barely notices. And that is exactly how the trap works, because next week there is another small thing, and then another. Each one looks small on the surface. Together they quietly take a big chunk of the money that could have been invested or saved. This is the same loop I wrote about in Why Do I Lose All My Money? . The purchases are not the disease, they are the symptom. The real problem is a system where spending is one tap away and saving takes effort. You cannot win that game with willpower, and you do not have to. You win it by changing the system. The fix is not becoming a stricter person. It is making spending slightly harder than saving. Five moves, starting now. 1. Pay Yourself Parti...
The Chaos of Perfection, Relationships, and the Courage to Change At first, when you meet someone, both you and the other person tend to show your best selves, unless you believe in playing the underdog. This creates an illusion of perfection around their personalities and words until you notice something you disagree with or perhaps something you consider stupid. For an exaggerated example, the person might believe in the flat Earth theory or make a bad decision that affects your time, mood, and energy. Now, when the other person makes a mistake, and you have been thinking that this person was so perfect, you have to battle with your own perception of their perfection. Perhaps you even start hating the other person simply because they got one thing wrong. All of this happens because you thought the person was perfect in the beginning. You did not see them as a human being capable of making mistakes, hurting you, or making you sad. As a result, you start creating distance to avoid gett...