HOW TO LET GO SOMETHING/ SOMEONE

We often get advice of letting things go will do miracles to you and all missing parts of you will fall into place, if you let things go. Here are 5 steps to let go someone or something happened to you:

Create Boundaries

Start with things and people that make you, remember that person or incident. Limit or cut off those things and people that make you remember that person or incident. 

Win your heart

Whatever that person or incident did to you, you keep on replying it on your head. And you too want to stop doing that but you just can't. Well your mind wants you to survive and in order to do that, it wants you to win every single time. Because for your mind defeat means "death". So your mind is trying to win the situation by giving you different perspective and possibilities of that particular situation with that thing or person you are trying to let go.

To stop your mind from replying that again and again. Start doing things that make you feel like a winner. Those healthy things that you enjoy doing. It could be things that make your heart bloom like heaven; for some it could be playing a sport you love to play, doing a activity you enjoy doing; like, singing, dancing, hiking, cooking, walking or any other thing you enjoy doing.

If you know what you love doing that is great, but if you don't know what you love please don't worry about it; I am here to help you to track what you love, quickly; Think of that feeling you get when you eat your favourite food, just stay with it in that feeling. Now make an effort and think what was that last thing you did and felt the same way around this feeling. That's possibly not  what you love but it would be a good start to make you feel like a winner. Winning is the secret formula for letting go. Start by reading a good book.

NO MATTER WHAT YOU CHOOSE!

REMEMBER, YOU ARE ALWAYS WINNING. IF IT IS ADDING VALUE IN YOUR LIFE.

Relapsing Trap

It is universal that whenever you start doing better by yourself, you will be pleased by your mind that you should check on them or make a move to know how they are doing. It is also possible that they will approach you for some or other reason. If something like this happens; remember this is a trap to pull you down from where you started with yourself. Be cautious with yourself, whether you are biasing yourself for this person or really doing what is right for you and your life ahead.

New Circle

Your people affects your life at some degree to what you do or things you choose in your life. Social Media can help you alot in this, yes it has it's dark-side but come on social media is a tool. It's up to the user how he/she uses that tool. There many good groups and people on social media looking for people with same goal and mindset. If you are looking forward to work on your self-growth, you can find, check, reject, refine and keep the great connections in your locality or around the globe via facebook. You may like being alone or in solitude but having the right people is a blessing. You just need to look and make an effort for them. I would like to encourage you to try and find out, because you'll never know without trying.

Acceptance Is The Key

You can always do things that will keep your mind engaged and you won't think about them. It helps till some degree, but you can't keep yourself busy always, there will be times and situations when you'll be lying in your bed and suddenly that thing or person gets clicked in your brain. Where will you run at that time. You have to face the reality what happened without giving yourself a story of what that meant for you. You are having a hard time letting go because somewhere you are not accepting what unexpected thing happened. You are always thinking oh.. I never expected that would ever happen. Without applying any logical explanation or bias accept what happened had been happen to you. Let's continue with life without keeping any hate or lesson from the incident. If you think there is some lesson life is trying to teach you sorry! it's only gonna limit you from experiencing things in life. It was a lesson about that person and you should apply the lesson learnings from that person to only on that particular person to let go and not on life and other new people you meet. Because it was about them, not about you or the next person you gonna meet.