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How to trace down your childhood wounds

By Prem Kaithwas
How to trace down your childhood wound
Disclaimer: This blog is not a replacement of professional therapy.

#Your Current Life

Your current life reveals alot about how as a child you were treated or what past experiences you had that shaped you and your current life. Why you live the way you live? Ask yourself. What made you this way? And if answer is anything from your past that's the wound you wanna heal.

#Relationships You Have

Your relationships with your family, friends. How expressive you are towards them about how you feeling. Your first girlfriend / boyfriend.
Why you left them?
why they choose you? or vice versa. Every relation we choose fulfills a need. What are your needs that are being met and what are not being met. Are you putting efforts in your relationship? or you find your partner unworthy that you no longer make effort for him/her. Do you like spending time with him/her. Whatever situation you are right in it's totally different from anybody's Life situation in relationship so don't copy.
Well, all your relationships longer than 4 years follows the pattern of relationship you had with your mom and dad as a child. Now look at your relationship. With whom you were close to mom or dad. How does it makes you feel to be around your parent. When you felt hurt by your parent. Are you still holding on to that hurt or experience? Let it go, live and heal.

#Your Perception about relationships

Do you expect your partner to behave in a perticular way, dress what you like, and have everything to make you feel happy. If this is you, there might be someone in your life who controlled and restricted you in your life to act a certain way, think a certain way and many certainties that might be thrown at you. It also reveals how uncomfortable you would be with uncertainties. Life is full of uncertainties. Know that it was someone who put this fear of uncertainties in you, you were not born with this. Now you know the cause of why you expect and become unhappy when life doesn't meet your expectation. You can let go your fear of uncertainties and accept whatever comes your way with a smile.

#Kind of people you Hate / Like

What kind of people you hate. List those characters/traits in a perticular individual that you can't tolerate. Observe those traits/character and try to figure out why hate for this perticulat trait.
For example:
If you hate people who put other people down, there might be someone in your life who used to put you down and demotivate you. Why are you still seeing that person from past in every other person you meet. It was about that individual in past, he/she is no longer demotivating you. Whatever the cause is hating them won't give you anything fruitful.

What kind of people you like.
For example:
You only like people who are free to talk don't judge your choices and appreciates you. It shows your insecurities about yourself.
It's about you more than anybody else when it comes to liking. Start accepting your flaws and it is okay to have flaws. Start accepting yourself the way your are.

#Your Subconscious

Your subconscious mind is part of your brain that knows answers to all of your questions as it is not logical as conscious mind that accpects information from outter world through our senses(sight,hearing,touch,smell)
where,
on contrary your subconscious mind is connected to the infinite intelligence and the only way to access subconscious mind is to command your subconscious mind with authority and faith that your subconscious mind will bring answer to your question while your are in sleepy drowsy state. For more information click here.

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